Thursday, October 23, 2014

Stage-Side Manners

Well I didn't know what else to title this post. But I feel its paramount and in the common interest. I try to blog on issues that have value to others and the topics almost always results from me having heard the topic voiced from more than 1 individual. This is a case where  I have heard from multiple people on this issue. I am meant to be the voice of those crying out.

I tend to blog on things that are a bit controversial that nobody wants to bring up due to dance-community-political-correctness.

To  producers out there and representatives of products and anyone of similar stature...being courteous counts a lot. I have heard from a least a half dozen individuals (dancers/choreos) who have opted NOT to become involved with a troupe because the producer chose to ignore their messages or were curt with them when they did.

You may not be aware that your **** stinks so I am trying to make you aware that if you find you are having a hard time attracting, hiring and/or   keeping dancers, this may well be the reason. Ask people you trust if your stage-side manners are respectable. It is simply a case of being nice, showing respect, and 'doing the right thing' at the right place and time. If you wear your *** on your shoulders and that's just how its got to be then please ignore this post, but for those of you who are trying to build an ongoing theatrical concern, and wonder why people treat you as if your anti-antiperspirant is failing, then this might be the wake-up call you needed. 

I hope I never get like that. If I do, tell me, "Yummy, you didn't answer me, I sent you an IM. Why are you blowing me off?. Why don't you speak to me?" And i will cower and apologize and will do better. 

I guess it can work both ways. Dancers need to show respect too. Yep I'm guilty as a performer. I missed a show practice and didn't tell the producer. I had gotten called into some temp. work, since i was out of work for a long while before that time I guess I got so excited, that I got my priorities backwards. SL 1st then RL. Anyways... They played the "C" card on me. Told me that so-and-so let them know they would be missing practice and they were dying of cancer. I almost wished I was dying too just to avoid the embarrassment. Wow. I looked in my excuses bag, dying relatives, national emergency, dog ate my internet cable, but couldn't com close to matching the "C" card. I could have played the race card. But essentially I was out of cards. Suffice it to say i got the cold shoulder from them and their mate for years over that incident.

But on a more serious note, had I took the time to call in sick, I could have avoided ill will and a friendship burgeoning friendship. Who knew? 

So if you are a show producer and you find yourself losing performers as fast as you are gaining them...or if you have a product and wonder why people are not upgrading, or expanding into other product offerings, this may be a culprit. Now if you have too much business and you are using the cold-shoulder to help whittle down the number of support calls ,then that makes sense to me. After all there are only so many hours in the day. Damn whiny customers!

Play nice.



  1. Greetings Yummy your comment, i dont know if you are any producer or choreographer, but as one, often get not serius dancers, who , with their funny name, do not turn up for rehearsal and go to the show claiming they want to perform, well they can do simple, build their set, create a spot on choreo and perform it, but they dont they rather turn to a show having not done a single rehearsal and yell for perform, are those the manners are you saying?

    1. Yes MissHipatia. That is a type of behavior or misbehaving that can and does occur. The importance of rehearsing, at least once, can not be overstated. It can and does often result in disasters. Not knowing where to be, and when, and how to get there, curtain-operations, testing your caching plan for: animations, textures, fade-textures, set-changes, particles, costume changes, strip-orders, insuring DJ has the 'right version of your song', testing that alphas, hair, and shoes rez with maybe a staggered rez-schedule, practicing complex set-rezzing and placement of no-copy and/or no-mod set pieces, practice to live-set reorientation, previewing show from audience perspective...insuring there is not too much depth or width to your show, etc. I heard one dancer admit that 'rehearsal is not fun and was boring and is why she didn't want to rehearse. Every time, without fail, that I've been asked to fill in without at least one rehearsal has ended in things going awry. Not most of the time, but every time...and at different venues. And ask your crew if you are communicating with them ok. If you come across as curt or short or have ignored any of their attempts to communicate as a producers life can get quite hectic and busy.

  2. I never rehearse. If I do, I never stick to what I rehearsed. Only reason that became a bad thing was when I had been MCing too long and found myself repetitive. I guess rehearsals or not though, there is only so long you can perform a particular way for. Also no longer have any desire to do stand up any more for that reason.

    Nottoos Cuties where I MCed for 3 hours all I had was a printed sheet of names and categories next to my PC. No script or rehearsing. Nobody noticed.

    Practising is not for everybody.

  3. Well we all started as dancers at some point and there are worse things done than ignoring a message, when i started i had a team leader who keep all the tips and pay us ridiculous bad, for that reason and others i left a trouple and start my own, if a dancer have this problems can do this, learn spot on and make their own show, play fair!

  4. Oh we need to do a whole session on stage-side manners. Of course we know it works both ways. People signing on to do a show, then bailing, affects the entire show and everyone involved. Simply not showing up for rehearsals or the actual, without a word, show sends Directors and Managers scrambling to fill holes. Sometimes of course RL happens and it can't be helped, but I have found with some, it is chronic. Meh, just avoid working with those again. I'm rambling, I'll shut up. But as the cane comes out to drag me off my soap box and off the stage, I shout out, "If you make a commitment to do a show, make it a priority and try to fulfil your obligation. It is just good manners, it is simple respect, not to mention a reflection of your own professionalism, and even though it is 'just' SL, it matters."